Film Name: 出走的决心 / Like A Rolling Stone
Since its release in the Mid-Autumn Festival, I’ve seen a lot of good reviews about Like A Rolling Stone, but of course there’s also a lot of controversy, which has aroused my curiosity.
The film, based on 50-year-old Auntie Su Min’s self-driving trip, is undoubtedly a feminist movie that meets the current social context and real issues, and it’s not surprising that it’s getting the kind of treatment I’ve seen above. ……
As far as my own perception is concerned, “Like A Rolling Stone” actually has quite a few problems, such as the overly straightforward dichotomy, which leads to a pale expression of the conflict, and too much bias towards the protagonist’s point of view, which also makes the strong emotions a little thin …… But the movie’s own intention and degree of completion is very good, not only to show the reality of the plight of women, but also to illustrate the plight of women in reality. But the movie itself is well intended and accomplished, showing both the reality of the plight of women and the real importance of the determination and action to get on the road.
In addition, I also saw some useful ideas in the movie for men and women to live together, so I’ll leave the details for later in the text.
[Friendly reminder: there will be spoilers below].
Let’s start with what I didn’t like about the movie.
Many feminist works nowadays have a problem (big or small), that is, the preconceived notion is too obvious, and the first thing that comes up is a clear-cut fight with men, which is powerful, but lacks the space and space to extend the narrative and characters.
“Like A Rolling Stone” also suffers from this problem, especially in the first half of the movie, completely molding the heroine Li Hong into a 360-degree all-encompassing patriarchal oppression, imprisoned by her mother’s job as the perfect victim:
Unable to continue her education when she was young, she had to take on the role of “eldest daughter”; after temporarily escaping from her family of origin, she was laid off from her job and slowly fell under the thumb of her husband, Sun Dayong; and when she reached her fiftieth birthday, she was occupied with all kinds of chores and errands all day long, and almost lost herself… …
Anyone with normal empathy would be sympathetic to Li Hong and think that her husband, daughter, son-in-law, grandson and other family members are exploiting her.
But life is not so black and white, and the complexity and ambiguity of kinship and family are missing here.
But out of this blemish, must also admit, “Like A Rolling Stone” in the core of the accusation and emotional rendering is indeed in place, many viewers have recognized Jiang Wu’s “dad flavor” is very positive, visible in the film Sun Dayong and Li Hong’s husband and wife life, in reality, very universal.
What is common is not necessarily reasonable. To this day, there are still a large number of women (including some men) who have to be tied up in all kinds of subservient relationships, and as long as they are still pursuing their due equality and rights, this kind of work has its own significance beyond the movie.
Speaking of which, I have to say what I like most about “Like A Rolling Stone”: the personas of the main characters are very typical, and their relationships are very interesting and chewy, expressing the “will to fight” and at the same time constructive.
Take the mother-daughter relationship between Li Hong and Sun Xiaoxue for example, I think it’s quite vivid.
When watching the movie, we can clearly feel that Xiaoxue is supportive of her mother, not only did she advise her to divorce many times, she was the first one to agree to the trip, and when her parents quarreled and were in conflict, she also took her mother’s side.
As a matter of fact, the daughter understands, understands and sympathizes with her mother, and the two should be on the same front of girl helps girl, but every time Li Hong is ready to go out, it is the daughter who ultimately cuts her off (accompanying the birth of a baby, bringing a baby, sending a kindergarten).
Xiao Xue’s inconsistency may seem contradictory, but in reality it is very real – because Li Hong has taught her since she was a child that “you should not be like me in the future”, Xiao Xue will become more self-centered (as is the case with many one-child children), and there is not much difference between self-centeredness and selfishness in many cases. In many cases, there is not much difference between ego and selfishness. If she wants to make more progress in her career and family, she will naturally ask for more from her mother as a matter of habit.
Of course, this is also a bit one-sided, after all, Xiaoxue will be unemployed, to a certain extent, is also because of the previous always take time off to take care of her mother suffering from depression, after the incident, Li Hong in order for her daughter to return to the workplace and put on hold the travel plan, it seems to be justified …… This is the aforementioned family relationship of “complexity The first is the “complexity” of the family relationship mentioned earlier.
Fortunately, “Like A Rolling Stone” tries to give an ideal answer to this question while posing a poignant one: Sun Xiaoxue and Xu Xiaoyang.
Ben Yu’s son-in-law Xiaoyang is representative of the vast majority of young and middle-aged men today: on the one hand, they still retain the laziness and habits of men as long-time vested interests, while on the other hand, they recognize and support the principle that men and women are equal to each other in the new era.
In other words, Xiaoxue’s influence is quite crucial to the kind of husband and father Xiaoyang will become.
Taking Xiaoyang’s purchase of “baby mama clothes” for his wife as an example, his starting point is just to make Xiaoxue more comfortable, but from Xiaoxue’s point of view, her fear of becoming a full-time housewife after losing her job is also justifiable – if Xiaoxue just loses her temper and argues, then she will only lose her temper again in the future. If Xiaoxue just lost her temper and argued, there would only be one more loveless couple in the future, but she saw her husband’s patience and maintained communication and exchange.
While it is not right to deny your wife all the time and take every penny as Sun Dayong does, it is equally not right to reject all affirmations and celebrations of your mother.
I think this is one of the problems with the confrontation between men and women nowadays. If both sides only calculate, then the optimal solution is “don’t live together.” ……
Xiaoyang has always been supportive of his wife on issues of right and wrong, agreeing to pay for his mother-in-law’s car, and in the end, changing jobs so that he can spend more time at home with his children, which is the way a husband and wife should be with their family: they shouldn’t be rivals, but teammates.
Let’s go back to what touched me the most in “Like A Rolling Stone”, which is the change in Li Hong’s status before and after she hits the road.
The title of the movie is the biggest point of view of the movie, Li Hong has long had the idea of going out for a walk, but there are always a variety of reasons to prevent her from traveling – her husband does not allow, the economy is not independent, their daughters need to be their own …… Even if you have already taken the driver’s license to buy a car, the front There are still countless “wait a little longer” waiting for her.
Therefore, Li Hong and countless other people like Li Hong, really want to travel is to make up their minds.
They always feel that they have to settle everything down and wait for everything to be ready before they can go out, but for them that day may never come……. Therefore, what they really need is to get on the road first, and then the boat will naturally straighten out when it comes to the end of the bridge (if you take a step back, the big deal is that if you fail, then you will go back home again in disgrace).
Li Hong angrily left home is the worst time, outside the epidemic seal control, road inconvenience, inside the daughter’s career start, need to take care of grandchildren, but she still went: as long as the road, there will always be a way.
No income? Relying on car enthusiasts to help and live with goods, her homemade hot sauce has a sale. No one to bring up the grandchildren? Daughter and son-in-law stiffly evened out the time. If she is always looking ahead, how can she “ride in the clouds, travel the four seas, heaven and earth, let me walk”?
I’m also going to take a page out of “Black Myth: Wukong’s” book and wrap up this article by borrowing the words of Feng Ji, founder of Yuko, in a previous interview: embarking on the path to fetch scriptures is more important than arriving at the Spirit Mountain.
The place you go and the people you meet are all secondary, as long as you can take out the “determination to go” and hit the road, you’ve already won.
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